FAMILY PLANNING BLOG

You've raised it before. Your spouse keeps saying "not now." But every week that passes without a plan is a week your family's future depends on chance instead of intention. Here's what to do when you're not on the same page, and what you can start doing today.

Debt does not transfer to your heirs the way your assets do. What it does is make a claim against your estate before your heirs receive anything. Understanding the difference is what determines whether your family pays what they owe, or pays what they never had to.

The One Big Beautiful Bill raised the estate tax exemption to $15 million per person. That provision made headlines everywhere. A second one didn't: a deduction limitation buried in a Congressional footnote that tax lawyers say may create double taxation inside family trusts, including special needs trusts with as little as $400,000 in assets. Here is what families with trusts need to know right now.

Most families assume that a list of passwords will be enough to access accounts after a death. That assumption is wrong, and the problem is not the list. The problem is a layer of security most accounts now require that no password can bypass. Here is what actually keeps families locked out, and what a real digital estate plan looks like.

Whether you had an estate plan going into your marriage or not, your divorce changed everything. The settlement resolved custody and assets. It did not address what happens to your children if you die. For divorced and separated fathers, that gap almost always exists, even when it feels like the plan is in place. Here is what actually needs to be updated.

Under the law, a stepparent has no automatic legal relationship to a stepchild. Not unless that child has been formally adopted. No matter how many years you've shown up. No matter what you call each other. The law has no record of what you've built.  That gap, between the family you live in and the family the law recognizes, is the one a plan has to close.

Father's Day is a celebration of presence. But the fathers who've truly done right by their families aren't just the ones who showed up every day. They're the ones who made sure their family would be protected whether they were there or not. If you haven't answered the one question that matters most, this is where to start.

What most parents don't realize: that agreement in your head, or the agreement with your godparents, doesn't exist in the eyes of the law. If something happened to you tonight, the decision about who raises your children wouldn't belong to you anymore. It would belong to a court, and a judge who doesn’t know you or your children, or what matters to you. Here's what that actually means, and what you can do about it right now. 

You signed the Power of Attorney (POA). You thought your family was protected. But when a parent or spouse loses capacity, that document you trusted may get rejected at the very bank where you need it most, and your family may not have time to fight it. As your Lawyer for Life, this is exactly the kind of gap I make it my job to close before you ever need to find out the hard way.